The 4 Habits of Super Successful People

Is there really a secret to success?


According to Angela Duckworth, Ph.D., author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, the answer is yes. During Duckworth’s decade or so of research, her study subjects have included seventh-grade math students, West Point cadets, and National Spelling Bee contestants. She found that a hallmark of the highest performers was how they processed their feelings of frustration and disappointment when they encountered an obstacle. Rather than giving in to defeat, they would ask themselves, “‘What could I do the next time to make something better?’ Of course, outcomes matter—an athlete always wants to win the gold,” she explains. “But the process of getting better is at least as important to them.”


In other words, Duckworth’s research shows that IQ and talent aren’t necessarily the best predictors of your future or your success. What leads us to accomplish great things is ferocious determination: resilience in the face of setbacks, sustained effort, hard work, and an optimistic outlook. This, she says, is grit.


Keep reading for four ways to fortify your grit so you can remain ferociously determined—no matter what life throws your way.


1. Be Consistent
Having grit means showing up and continuously striving for progress. “It’s more about stamina than intensity,” Duckworth says. “That’s surprising to some people—when we think about grit, there’s an intensity to it. But I think what’s important is a consistency of effort and focus over time. To be gritty is to keep putting one foot in front of the other; to hold fast to a purposeful goal.”


How to Do It: Set achievable goals. When we set goals, we often become overly ambitious—and run the risk of becoming overwhelmed and discouraged. Instead, be specific. For example, “save money” is vague and difficult to zero in on—but a targeted goal such as “add at least $100 to my savings account each month” is clear, realistic, and measurable.

2. Define Success for Yourself
The way we think and talk about success can create false limits on what we actually achieve. “We don’t need to believe we can be Usain Bolt, the fastest person on the planet, or Einstein, the smartest person, but almost all of us could be so much more than we believe we could be,” Duckworth says. “It’s my belief that in the right circumstances—with the right support, the right mindset, the right optimism—people can do marvelous things. We ought not to put ceilings on ourselves too early and we ought not to build those ceilings too low.”


How to Do It: Reframe setbacks as springboards for growth. “When you change your belief about how success happens, you can change your behavior,” says Duckworth. Use self-talk that praises progress over perfection, such as, “I deserve my own respect for trying my best,” or “I’m not a lost cause. I just need practice!”

3. Celebrate Each Step
According to Duckworth’s research, high performers break down long-term goals into small steps, which creates more immediate victories. “Excellence, when we see it all at once—for instance, the winning performance of an Olympic swimmer—seems inaccessible. But what you don’t see are the hours and hours of practice,” she explains. “We need to realize that this marvelous final product took many, many iterations to come about. And there were these tiny little components, all practicable, all doable. When we think about it that way, it makes things accessible.”


How to Do It: Keep a win list. Write down what went well at the end each day. What did you feel good about? What did you get done? At the end of each week, take a moment to review your list and give yourself credit for a job well done.

4. Challenge Yourself
And finally, says Duckworth, “Gritty people know that action has power, magic, and beauty. Dig into it! You can never learn something from the outside. You have to be on the inside. High achievers that I’ve spoken to, they just keep signing themselves up for things they can’t do. Then they figure out how to do it.”


How to Do It: Push yourself to take small risks every day. Share a candid idea in a meeting, reach out to a colleague you don’t know that well, or ask for feedback so that you can grow and improve.





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10 Powerful Ways to Master Self-Discipline

Like everything else that brings progress, the greatest struggle is always with ourselves.

It may be hard to believe when you’re facing a hot-fudge sundae or the prospect of sleeping
 in versus hitting the gym, but studies show that people with self-discipline are happier.

People with a higher degree of self-control spend less time debating whether or not to
indulge in behaviors that are detrimental to their health, and are able to make positive
decisions more easily. They don’t let impulses or feelings dictate their choices. Instead,
 they make level-headed decisions. As a result, they tend to feel more satisfied with their
 lives.

There are things you can do to learn self-discipline and gain the willpower to live a
happier life. If you are looking to take control of your habits and choices, here are the
eight most powerful things you can do to master self-discipline.

1. Know your weaknesses.

We all have weaknesses. Whether they’re snacks like potato chips or chocolate chip cookies,
 or technology like Facebook or the latest addictive game app, they have similar effects on us.

Acknowledge your shortcomings, whatever they may be. Too often people either try to pretend
their vulnerabilities don’t exist or cover up any pitfalls in their lives. Own up to your
flaws. You can’t overcome them until you do.

2. Remove temptations.

Like the saying goes, “out of sight, out of mind.” It may seem silly, but this phrase offers
 powerful advice. By simply removing your biggest temptations from your environment, you will
 greatly improve your self-discipline.

If you want to eat healthier, toss the junk food in the trash. If you want to improve your
productivity at work, turn off social media notifications and silence your cell phone. The
fewer distractions you have, the more focused you will be on accomplishing your goals. Set
yourself up for success by ditching bad influences.

3. Set clear goals and have an execution plan.

If you hope to achieve self-discipline, you must have a clear vision of what you hope to
accomplish. You must also have an understanding of what success means to you. After all,
if you don’t know where you are going, it’s easy to lose your way or get sidetracked.

A clear plan outlines each step you must take in order to reach your goals. Figure out
who you are and what you are about. Create a mantra to keep yourself focused. Successful
people use this technique to stay on track and establish a clear finish line.

4. Build your self-discipline.

We aren’t born with self-discipline--it’s a learned behavior. And just like any other
skill you want to master, it requires daily practice and repetition. Just like going to
the gym, willpower and self-discipline take a lot of work. The effort and focus that
self-discipline requires can be draining.

As time passes, it can become more and more difficult to keep your willpower in check.
The bigger the temptation or decision, the more challenging it can feel to tackle other
tasks that also require self-control. So work on building your self-discipline through
daily diligence.

5. Create new habits by keeping it simple.

Acquiring self-discipline and working to instill a new habit can feel daunting at first,
 especially if you focus on the entire task at hand. To avoid feeling intimidated, keep
it simple. Break your goal into small, doable steps. Instead of trying to change
everything at once, focus on doing one thing consistently and master self-discipline with
 that goal in mind.

If you’re trying to get in shape, start by working out 10 or 15 minutes a day. If you’re
 trying to achieve better sleep habits, start by going to bed 15 minutes earlier each night.
 If you want to eat healthier, start by prepping a bag lunch the night before to take with
you in the morning. Take baby steps. Eventually, when you’re ready, you can add more goals
to your list.

6. Eat often and healthy.

The feeling of being hangry--that angry, annoyed, irritated sensation you get when you’re
 hungry—is real and can have a substantial impact on willpower. Research has proven that
low blood sugar often weakens a person’s resolve, making you grumpy and pessimistic.

When you’re hungry, your ability to concentrate suffers and your brain doesn’t function
as well. Your self-control is likely weakened in all areas, including diet, exercise, work
 and relationships. So fuel up with healthy snacks and regular meals to keep yourself in check.

7. Change your perception about willpower.

According to a study by Stanford University, the amount of willpower a person has is
predetermined by their beliefs. If you believe you have a limited amount of willpower,
 you probably won’t surpass those limits. If you don’t place a limit on your self-control,
you are less likely to exhaust yourself before meeting your goals.

In short, it may be that our internal conceptions about willpower and self-control determine
how much of them we have. If you can remove these subconscious obstacles and truly believe you
 can do it, then you will give yourself an extra boost of motivation toward making those goals
 a reality.

8. Give yourself a backup plan.

Psychologists use a technique to boost willpower called “implementation intention.” That’s when
you give yourself a plan to deal with a potentially difficult situation you know you will likely
face. For instance, imagine that you’re working on eating healthier, but you’re on your way to a
party where food will be served.

Before you go, tell yourself that instead of diving into a plate of cheese and crackers, you will
sip a glass of water and focus on mingling. Going in with a plan will help give you the mindset
and the self-control necessary for the situation. You will also save energy by not having to make
a sudden decision based on your emotional state.

9. Reward yourself.

Give yourself something to be excited about by planning a reward when you accomplish your goals.
Just like when you were a little kid and got a treat for good behavior, having something to look
forward to gives you the motivation to succeed.

Anticipation is powerful. It gives you something to obsess over and focus on, so you’re not only
thinking of what you are trying to change. And when you achieve your goal, find a new goal and a
new reward to keep yourself moving forward.

10. Forgive yourself and move forward.

Even with all of our best intentions and well-laid plans, we sometimes fall short. It happens.
You will have ups and downs, great successes and dismal failures. The key is to keep moving forward.

If you stumble, acknowledge what caused it and move on. Don’t let yourself get wrapped up in guilt,
anger or frustration, because these emotions will only drag you further down and impede future
progress. Learn from your missteps and forgive yourself. Then get your head back in the game and
refocus on your goals.

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7 Step Method To Solve And Deal Effectively With Any Problem

Step 1: Define the problem clearly.
• What exactly is the problem?
• Get the real facts ( no apparent facts)
(so much time is wasted when the problem is not even understood)

Step 2: What are all the possible causes of this problem?
• How and why did it happen? (it may solve the problem)
• The better quality of answers you come up with, the better odds you have to come up with a solution)

Step 3: What are all the possible solutions?
• The more possible solutions you can come up with, the more likely you will come up with an ideal solution.

Step 4: Make a decision. • Any decision is usually better than no decision at all.
• 80% of problems must be resolved as soon as they come up and only 20% need time and deliberation; extra research.

Step 5: Assign responsibility for carrying out the decision.
• Who is going to do what, when and to what standard?

Step 6: Set a schedule of reporting and a standard to measure whether or not the decision has been successful.
• A solution without a standard or deadline is not a solution. It is merely a discussion.

Step 7: Task you or someone else with taking definite action to implement the
solution and resolve the problem.
• Action is EVERYTHING.
• The more you focus on solutions, the smarter you become and the better solutions you can come up with.

26 Of The Most Powerful Quotes Of All Time

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though
nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is
a miracle.
– Albert Einstein

If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if
you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to
keep moving forward.
– Martin Luther King Jr.

The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to
the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer
 and richer experience.
– Eleanor Roosevelt

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make
 you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

It is difficult to find happiness within oneself, but it is
 impossible to find it anywhere else.
– Arthur Schopenhauer

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last
 of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any
given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
– Viktor Frankl

Beware that, when fighting monsters, you yourself do not
become a monster… for when you gaze long into the abyss.
The abyss gazes also into you.
– Friedrich Nietzsche

Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small
things with great love.
– Mother Teresa

Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words.
Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions.
Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits.
Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character.
Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny.
– Chinese proverb, author unknown

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often
we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the
one which has been opened for us.
– Helen Keller

We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.
– Anaïs Nin

The rights of every man are diminished when the rights of one
man are threatened.
– John F. Kennedy

Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on
saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible
 that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the
 contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely
 acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the
 beginning.
– Mahatma Gandhi

For peace to reign on Earth, humans must evolve into new beings
who have learned to see the whole first.
– Immanuel Kant

Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art…. It has no
survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value
to survival.
– C.S Lewis

No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it’s not the same
river and he’s not the same man.
– Heraclitus

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember
that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
– Epicurus

What we know is a drop, what we don’t know is an ocean.
– Isaac Newton

Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
– George Bernard Shaw

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed
 is always to try just one more time.
– Thomas A. Edison

Be content with what you have;
rejoice in the way things are.
When you realize there is nothing lacking,
the whole world belongs to you.
– Lao Tzu

One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth
 must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.
– Abraham Maslow

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue
 that counts.
– Winston Churchill

We must love them both, those whose opinions we share and those whose
opinions we reject, for both have labored in the search for truth, and both
 have helped us in finding it.
– Thomas Aquinas

No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his
 background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn
 to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the
human heart than its opposite.
– Nelson Mandela

I don’t feel that it is necessary to know exactly what I am. The main interest
in life and work is to become someone else that you were not in the beginning.
– Michel Foucault

10 Habits That Will Dramatically Improve Your Life

1. Stay away from people who erode your quality of life.
2. No more phone, tablet or computer in bed.
3. Appreciate the here and now.
4. Realize that things aren’t always as you perceive them to be.
5. Get started, even though you might fail.
6. Get organized.
7. Start a collection of the things that truly resonate with you.
8. Do something that reminds you who you are.
9. Say no.
10. Stick to realistic goals.


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12 SIMPLE SIGNS OF MATURITY...

MATURITY IS............................................

1.

WHEN YOU STOP TRYING TO CHANGE
OTHERS BUT FOCUS ON CHANGING YOURSELF
INSTEAD.

2.

WHEN YOU ACCEPT PEOPLE AS THEY ARE.

3.

WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND EVERYONE IS RIGHT
IN THEIR OWN PERSPECTIVE.

4.

WHEN YOU LEARN TO "LET GO".

5.

WHEN YOU ARE ABLE TO DROP
"EXPECTATIONS" FROM A RELATIONSHIP
ANS GIVE FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING.

6.

WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND WHATEVER YOU DO,
YOU DO FOR YOUR OWN PEACE.

7.

WHEN YOU STOP PROVING TO THE WORLD
HOW INTELLIGENT YOU ARE.

8.

WHEN YOU DO NOT SEEK APPROVAL FROM
OTHERS.

9.

WHEN YOU STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WITH
OTHERS.

10.

WHEN YOU ARE AT PEACE WITH YOURSELF.

11.

WHEN YOU ARE ABLE TO DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN
"NEED" AND "WANT" AND ARE ABLE TO LET GO OF YOUR
WANTS.

12.

WHEN YOU STOP ATTACHING HAPPINESS TO
MATERIAL THINGS.

Does Spirituality Make You Special?

Sadhguru talks about the mind’s desire to be special,
and how this is counterproductive on the spiritual path.

Sadhguru:
For many people, the reason why the spiritual path seems
 to be a struggle is that their culture and social situations
 have always taught them to be special. One’s whole life
effort becomes focused on this. To be special means to have
 something that others do not have. But this is not special,
 it is a convoluted sense of wellbeing. Right now, if your
only joy is that someone else does not have what you have,
if this is the only pleasure in your life, we call this
perversion not being special.

People can find pleasure in all kinds of things. Once, two men
 were captured by fierce cannibals from a neighboring tribe.
After a meeting with their headman, the tribe decided to cook
the men alive. The men were placed in a pot of water, and as
the fire started burning and the water became hotter and hotter,
the older man started laughing – really laughing. The younger
man said, “Are you crazy? Do you know what is going to happen
to us? Why are you laughing?” The older man said, “I just peed
 in their soup!” People find pleasure in all sorts of perverted ways.

A Sore Thumb

Spirituality is not about becoming special. It is about becoming
one with everything. This disease of wanting to become special has
come to people simply because they have not recognized the value
of the uniqueness of their being. By living on the surface for so
long, their whole effort has been to be special. As long as this
effort is on, you are only working counter to the spiritual process.
 The whole dimension of spirituality is to melt and become one with
 existence, not to stand out like a sore thumb.

In so many ways, the mind always wants to be special. That is the
nature of the egoistic mind. It can only compare logically. The
moment this comparison comes, competition starts. The moment competition
 starts, your life sense will disappear because now it is only about
 being better than others. It is because of this foolish endeavor that
 we are in the ridiculous situation of having to teach people about
their own nature. We have to remind people about their own original
nature simply because they are lost in trying to outdo someone or
everyone around them.

Ordinary to Extra-ordinary

Some time ago, our yoga program brochures used to say: “From Ordinary
to Extraordinary.”  People thought they would become special by doing
the program and would ask me “Sadhguru, how will we be special?”  I would
always tell them, “You are going to become ‘extra’ ordinary – more ordinary
 than other people.”

The more you try to be special the further you get from the truth. So
 much suffering and mental illness have come from this desire to be special.
 Instead of deriving perverse pleasure from the fact that someone does not
 have what you have, if you genuinely make the effort to become one with
 everything, this internal struggle will completely go away. If you recognize
 your uniqueness and also every other being’s uniqueness, you can neither
become less nor more than anyone else.

Stress Management

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience.
As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the 
"half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, 
she enquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. 
If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, 
I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed.
In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, 
the heavier it becomes."

She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. 
Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer 
and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, 
you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."

Remember to put the glass down.

7 Cardinal Rules For Life

1.Make peace with your past, so it doesn’t spoil your present. Your past does not define your future – your actions and beliefs do.

2.What others think of you is none of your business. It’s how much you value yourself and how important you think you are.

3.Time heals almost everything, give time, time. Pain will be less hurting. Scars make us who we are; they explain our life and why we are the way we are. They challenge us and force us to be stronger.

4.No one is the reason for your own happiness, except you yourself. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside.

5.Don’t compare your life with others’, you have no idea what their journey is all about. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we would grab ours back as fast as we could.

6.Stop thinking too much, it’s alright not to know all the answers. Sometime there is no answer, not going to be any answer, never has been an answer. That’s the answer! Just accept it, move on, NEXT!

7.Smile, you don’t own all the problems in the world. A smile can brighten the darkest day and make life more beautiful. It is a potential curve to turn a life around and set everything straight.

Life Humbles You

  When you think you have all figured it out and everything seems falling in place and you start ignoring and taking advantage of the wrong opportunities, LIFE will HUMBLE you in a way, it will make you realize the mistake you are making, it hits really hard and it will take a while for you to see how stupid you are to make such a silly mistake , and you also know the consequences of what will happen when you commit that mistake.